I had the exact same problem in high school. In my senior year, I was finally told "it's because they're afraid to ask you." Yeah, that really made me feel good.
Guys told me I was pretty and I made good grades so everyone knew I was smart.
Honestly, they're probably intimidated by you. If you're a cheerleader you are pretty and popular. But, if guys are saying they don't want to ruin your reputation, don't go out with them. Don't even consider those. Obviously, they're just out to find someone pretty they can screw. They aren't even worth your time.
If you like a guy that has shown some interest in you, show a little interest back. Sometimes, if a guy suddenly stops acting like he likes you, it's because he got the feeling he was bothering you or you just don't like him back. So, just be friendly. Let the guy make the first move and once you know you like him too, make a move back. Give a little and then it's his turn. And so on.
That's how I did it my senior year. I met this guy and made sure he liked me. Then I did what I told you and it ended up working out perfectly.
Just be friendly, but again, don't go out with anyone who says they're worried about ruining your reputation. That's not something they should say about someone they truly like.
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